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Intimacy has
an interface.

A critical reader on dating, markets, and platform power.

Research project · 2026

Thesis 23 / 31

The extractive configuration is optional, and some firms have declined it.

Another company faced the same risks and made a different decision.

PROGRAMMATIC ADS
2018
THIRD-PARTY SDKs
Removed
MEMBERS
~30M
DATA SALES
None

Context

Data-intensive advertising is frequently described as the unavoidable price of running a free digital service. A competing queer platform offers a useful counterexample.

Scruff and Jack’d operate in the same technical ecosystem and serve users exposed to many of the same risks, yet their owner chose to remove third-party advertising software rather than normalise it.

Argument

Perry Street Software, which operates Scruff and Jack’d and reaches a reported thirty million members, removed third-party programmatic advertising from its products in 2018 and stripped other companies’ software development kits out of its applications at what its chief executive describes as tremendous cost in time and money. The company does not sell user data and does not use third-party ad networks. Eric Silverberg’s stated reasoning is jurisdictional rather than ethical in the abstract: the community is sensitive to data sharing because there are countries that criminalise same-sex acts. The same conclusion was available to every company in Part Two.

This does not prove that Perry Street has no privacy risk or commercial motive. It proves that a particular extraction mechanism was a choice. When one company can reject third-party ad networks, “industry standard” stops functioning as a complete defence for competitors that retain them.

Evidence

MeasureValueWhat it shows
PROGRAMMATIC ADS2018Year third-party programmatic advertising was removed
THIRD-PARTY SDKsRemovedExternal software-development kits were also removed
MEMBERS~30MReported membership across Scruff and Jack’d
DATA SALESNoneCompany states that it does not sell user data

Key finding

Perry Street Software, which operates Scruff and Jack’d and reaches a reported thirty million members, removed third-party programmatic advertising from its products in 2018 and stripped other companies’ software development kits out of its applications at what its chief executive describes as tremendous cost in time and money.

Implication

Third-party advertising and data-sharing infrastructure are commercial choices, not necessities.

Citations & further reading

  1. Perry Street Software. (n.d.). Privacy at Perry Street Software. https://www.perrystreet.com

    COMPANY PRIVACY STATEMENT